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Choose Your Ending: The Other Side of the Coin
As this year winds down, I want to name something openly.
I’ve spent a lot of time this year talking about endings.
What needs to be released.
What’s no longer working.
What we’re holding onto long past its expiration date.
And that message matters — because so many of us get stuck carrying things that quietly drain our energy, clarity, and courage.
But here’s what I’ve been sitting with lately:
That’s only one side of the Choose Your Ending coin.
There’s another ending we get to choose — and it might even be the more important one.
The Other Ending We Rarely Talk About
When I say Choose Your Ending, I don’t just mean:
- what you need to let go of
- what you need to stop tolerating
- what you need to release
I also mean this:
Choose your ending as an outcome.
Choose who you want to be.
Choose what kind of leader, team, or organization you are becoming.
Because when that ending is clear, the letting go stops feeling random or forced.
It becomes guided.
This is the distinction that’s been coming into focus for me as the year closes — and it’s the same distinction that has shaped all of my most transformational seasons.
Before you ask what should end in 2026?
Ask this:
How do I want this to go?
Who do I want to be on the other side of this season?
That’s the ending that pulls everything else into alignment.
This Ends Now
🛑 Treating endings as something you endure instead of something you choose with intention.
When we only focus on letting go without clarity on who we’re becoming, endings feel heavy.
They feel like loss.
They feel like punishment.
But that’s not because endings are wrong.
It’s because the outcome hasn’t been chosen yet.
If you don’t choose your ending — as in, your direction — you’ll hesitate to let anything go.
This Moment Matters
🟢 Rather than asking what do I need to stop? try asking:
- Who am I choosing to be next?
- What kind of leader do I want to be known as?
- What kind of team or organization are we becoming?
That’s choosing your ending as an identity.
And once that ending is clear, the second question becomes obvious:
What can’t come with me if that’s who I’m becoming?
This is the work I’m doing right now as the year winds down.
It’s the same work I was doing during my most transformational year.
And it’s the foundation of what I’ve always taught at its core:
Change your Energy (from survival to creation).
Change your Vision (from cloudy to clearly inspired).
Change your Expression (from powerless to powerfully aligned).
And your Results will follow (as a product of surrender and trust).
That’s the unstoppable formula to come back better than EVER, and create your best year EVER.
A Quiet Invitation
I’m thinking about recording a longer year-end message that goes deeper into this idea — the two sides of Choose Your Ending:
the ending you’re living toward, and the things that must fall away to get there.
Before I do, I’d love to hear from you.
In one sentence:
- What kind of person or leader are you choosing to be in the year ahead?
- Or… what ending are you ready to live from?
Just reply and share a line.
Your response will help shape the message I share next.
Up we go—