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What Letting Go Actually Looks Like
Four cities. Three weeks. Six sessions.
Nashville, Columbus, Atlanta, Salt Lake City.
That was March.
If you were there — thank you. If you weren't — let me bring you along for the ride...
The numbers
I used to ask attendees to rate the value of my session on a 5-point scale. Consistently hitting 4.7+, that told me we were landing.
Then I started asking something different:
On a scale of 1–5, how prepared did you feel to handle your greatest leadership challenge when you walked in? And how prepared do you feel now?
The results changed how I think about this work.
In Atlanta, 159 leaders responded. Average readiness before: 2.75. After: 4.04 — a 47% increase in self-reported readiness to address their primary leadership challenge.
Across the full stretch, the lowest increase we measured was 41%. The highest was 57%.
And at one session: only 14% of the room felt highly equipped to address their costliest survival pattern before I spoke.
By the end: 84%.
That kind of shift doesn't happen because of inspiration. It happens when people realize they already have what they need — they just needed a framework for the choices.
What they're ready to end
At the close of my Salt Lake City session, I asked one question:
What is one thing you're ready to end or let go of?
Read these slowly:
- "Control of things I can't control."
- "Winning being right."
- "What if."
- "Assumptions and outdated narratives."
- "Comfort. I recognize that it's not a stepping stone but a stumbling block. Boy is it addictive."
- "Poor thoughts of myself that are only based on the way some people have treated me."
That last one.
I've been thinking about it since I left the room.
These aren't people who've given up. These are people who've gotten clear. There's a difference.
Letting go isn't quitting. It's choosing what deserves your energy — and what doesn't.
That's Radical Adaptability in action. Not a concept. A decision made in real time, in a conference room, on a Tuesday afternoon.
What I keep hearing — in every city
The industries change. The job titles change. The conference themes change.
But the moment doesn't.
Every room has someone carrying a conversation they haven't had yet. Someone managing a team member who's setting the wrong temperature for everyone around them. Someone sitting in the same meeting for the fourth time, waiting for something to be different.
The framework doesn't change those circumstances.
But here's what it does change: YOU. The moment you realize the choice was always yours.
That's the moment I'm after. Every room. Every time.
What's next
After a full month of travel and events, I'm taking next week off to spend with family. Very grateful for that. Then I'll be back in your inbox in April.
We've been building toward something here in the last few weeks — starting with Calm, then the five defaults your brain runs under pressure. Then how to turn a silly question into a neuroscience hack for Courage.
Next month we go deeper into the framework and how to put Radical Adaptability in Action. That's where it gets interesting.
Something big is building. Glad you're here for it.
Up we go—
P.S. If you know a leader, team, or organization navigating relentless change — and this resonated — I'd be grateful for an introduction. Just reply to this email. Q1 2026 was something special... and we're just getting started. Thanks to you.